I can’t believe it is Wednesday already! This week is flying by!
I have been reading the news and going on facebook too much. I’ve read a lot of stories recently about people whose lives have been taken too early. Really tragic. I like to know what is going on in the world and I think exposure to reality is good to some extent. But when you start shedding tears every time you read the news, time out time! My Grandmother used to have the TV on all day when she was home and it was always set to the news. She was a little deaf so the volume was always turned up. My Grandmother used to get so upset and worried about the state of the world, which can be upsetting and worrying! However, at times it consumed her and I don’t believe it was healthy.
Anyway, all of these stories remind me of my mortality and those around me. They remind me how special time with those we love is! And how important our paths on the earth are. I had a teacher in High School who used to ask us every class, if today was your last day would you be happy with your life?
Obviously we can’t have great or even good days every day. However, we can aim to have a life we find fulfilling. And how do you do that?
I’m no expert, but one of the things I believe helps is taking care of you. Taking care of your dreams, needs, wishes, desires and goals. Sometimes or often we can’t do it all! Maybe everything is what we strive for but even if we could have it all it wouldn’t be healthy. It is okay not to tick off everything!
For me one of the hardest things about taking care of my needs is identifying them. Sometimes I don’t know what I want. I have never really known what I wanted to do “when I grow up.” Many people do and go for it! I guess I have a wide range of interests and lots of things appeal a little. It is hard to achieve goals if you don’t set them! I have figured out that moving forward for me involves trying out new and different things, setting different goals, and being open to change if it is not working out the way I want it to be.
One of the other major stumbling blocks in meeting our needs, I believe, is the rat race to survive. We have to work to pay for food, clothing, housing, the list goes on. Indulging in our true desires can be expensive, involve time out to study and may not feel possible when you have to pay for everything! In a way meeting our needs can feel like a first world luxury. And I guess to a large extent it is. That doesn’t mean that it is wrong or not acceptable to follow our dreams. We may not be able to drop out of the corporate world in pursuit of writing a novel, but maybe we can do short writing courses on the weekends and write for fun. Start smaller and let it grow. However, that said, I am a believer in taking a chance on your dreams if you are in the position to do so!
Being a good communicator is another really key factor in getting what you want out of life. And I’m not going to lie, I fall down majorly here. I can communicate well in some regards – can write and speak and love socialising. But sometimes when it really counts I find it easier to stay quiet then to speak up for myself. I have been told I am a push over or walk over and I guess really sometimes it is true. I am empathetic and don’t like to do the pushing so it can be hard to find the line in between and easy to take the laying down approach.
Despite all of my ramblings I will say if today was my last day I would be proud of where I am.
Do you struggle to take care of your needs? Do you know what you want to do with your life? If you died today would you be happy?