Living a life full of regrets- with no regrets about it!

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Do you ever see that phrase:

Live without regrets…

And aspire to it? I used to. I used to see it everywhere and think it was the way to be. Kind of my attitude in my early twenties. Get the most out of life, do it all and regret nothing. Because you haven’t missed out on anything.

Essentially I know that it’s trying to encourage you to live life to the full and don’t get me wrong I’m all about it.

But these days it doesn’t inspire me it kind of annoys me. Stupid thing to get annoyed about right? It doesn’t annoy me because it encourages getting yourself out there. But when you read it and take it at its core literal meaning it starts to get to me.

My mind goes to questions like:

“How can you live without regrets?” “Does that mean don’t take responsibility for your mistakes?” “Do people really think that they don’t need to feel bad about their mistakes?”

I’m at a point in my life where I have most definitely made mistakes. Some have been astronomical. Some have been minor. Some have taught me a lesson from which I can grow and move forward. Others can’t be repaired and have taught me a lesson, but with no real happy ending.

DO I wish I could live without regrets? Yes, but I’m not perfect. I’m not super human and it is unrealistic and dare I say arrogant to even pretend to be able to live without regrets.

The other flip side is that my regrets, my mistakes and my troubles have shaped me, created my present, created options for my future and led to some of the most wonderful things in my life. I don’t mean to say the mistakes were not mistakes because they led to wonderful outcomes, because in most cases they were still major mistakes. I just got lucky with the outcomes.

I guess it annoys me too because I think we all need to accept responsibility for our flaws and for the times when we royally stuff up. To be able to say “Sorry, I stuffed up, how can I make it better OR move forward from here.”

So whilst I know the intention of the phrase is not to literally be arrogant, not accept responsibility for your mistakes or even think that you’ve made mistakes, these days I can’t look past it.

Are there any inspirational quotes out there that irritate you? Do you live with regrets? Do you think it is healthy and normal to do so? I should have re titled this post to Friday’s rant! hahaha!

Jess xoxoxox

 

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20 Responses to Living a life full of regrets- with no regrets about it!

  1. I don’t think there’s a human being out there that doesn’t have any regrets – and I believe that acknowledging your mistakes is the sign of someone with character – and yes, something that gets me going as well. I think the pain of certain regrets fades with time and as long as we’re living with the intention of doing good, I think we’re on the right track!
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  2. Right now I’m taking an online course about learning math. One of the things that we are learning is that many students do not like to fail. Not getting an answer right away makes them feel dumb. We have taken away the gift of real learning ~ making a mistake, processing it, correcting it, learning from it, and growing because of it. I think this is true in life, too.

    Something people say that kinda bugs me right now: “You deserve it!”
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    • Oh that is a great annoying quote! 🙂 Especially when there are so many people who suffer in the world.

      That is really interesting about the course you are taking. I think from my own classroom experience I definitely saw people get turned off from math because they didn’t like to be wrong. I found the flip to be true for me that because I didn’t like to be wrong I wanted to really understand so I could be right. Definitely many lessons in the classroom have such relevant application in the big wide world!

  3. I really like what Stephanie has to say…Failing is a great learning opportunity. We can fail, learn from our mistakes and then get it and feel so much better! There are a number of things that I hate or find annoying that I want to try so hard to correct, but sometimes i think we are meant to live with our flaws.
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  4. I seriously have no regrets in life. None.

    That’s NOT because I’ve had a perfect life, but rather because I REFUSE to have regrets. I did my best all along, and if that wasn’t very good, it was still my best back then. So I embrace it. And try and learn from my mistakes.

  5. I think it’s less about regrets and more about learning to move past them. Or not looking at them as “regrets” but my like lessons – yes, I regret not doing XX, but next time I can, I’ll know how it felt to not do it. And then you just have to let it go, because otherwise it will just eat up and you, and that will just make everything worse.
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  6. Many would say that I took chances and lived without regrets in my earlier years, but I’m not sure that’s the case. I took calculated chances when making big life changes (changing jobs, becoming an overseas volunteer etc).

    I have a GAZILLION regrets about my life. I have several ‘Sliding Doors’ moments I’d like to change, but I like the concept of going after your dreams or desires. I like the idea of living without regrets – as we as we also accept that means living WITH consequences!

    Thanks for this post – challenged me to think about my life!
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    • I love the thought of Sliding Doors, I always wonder what if, and am intrigued that what if would not necessarily have been better! I think I would have made better choices if they had been calculated! 🙂

  7. I love this Jess. It’s funny because I’ve found that lately I’ve been getting annoying with this like this – Life life without regrets or Nobody ever regrets a workout. I think that as I’ve gotten older, I come to value the mistakes that I make (some, not all!!) because I can learn from them.
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    • Thank you for including me in your round up!!! 🙂 I’m glad you enjoyed it. I really regretted posting it for a few minutes after I pressed publish!

  8. I think it’s hard not to regret things at the present moment, but then we see how they shaped us, like you said. It’s all about perspective, yes?

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