"Balancing on the Brink." Eagle Peak summit, Chugach Mountains, AlaskaHello!

Happy New Year! I hope you have all had a wonderful Christmas, New Years and hopefully at least a few days off from work and regular life.

I like New Years, I like the magic of change, the romance of a fresh start, the belief in something more and something better. Not to say that I am not extremely grateful for all the wonderful things that I have, I am just a dreamer. The older I get the harder it is to hold onto the dreamy side of life, but I don’t want to get cynical. I want to believe.

This year I really do want to make some positive changes in my life. I have some resolutions and goals, which I will probably pen out here on the blog. I know that some people hate resolutions and I get that, but for me I find it helps sometimes to write down my dreams and hold myself accountable.

What I really want to work on is Confidence. I almost find it embarrassing to admit, but I think in certain areas of my life I lack confidence and it is holding me way back. It is one of those things that sort of chipped away until I woke up and thought how did I get to this spot mentally. I really want my children to go through life being confident in their abilities and to have the guts to reach for their dreams. I don’t want mental hurdles to hold them back, the way sometimes they hold me back. SO this year I am going to try to tackle issues in my life with confidence, even if it is “fake” confidence, I will fake it til I make it.

One of the areas in which I know I completely fall down in is in my relationships. I don’t like conflict, I don’t like to upset people and I find it hard to stand up to people. I actually hate situations where I have to. But sometimes it is necessary and too often I have let it slide and kept quiet. I want my kids to see it is okay to draw lines, set limits and flat out tell people when they are out of line. It is okay to believe in yourself, take care of yourself and still love others. Empathy and Confidence can be friends.

Confidence is my word for this year. If I am true to my intentions it will bring about some positive changes. How about you? Are you making any resolutions? Have you ever struggled with confidence?

Jess xoxox

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11 Responses to Confidence

  1. Hey! Great resolutions… working on your mind and your spirit. I like it. If you’re a religious person (and maybe even if you’re not) I’ve heard a really good book for #2 on your list is “Boundaries” by Dr. Henry Cloud. In the past I started it and life got in the way (I don’t like when that happens). I should pick it up and read it again.
    How do you plan on working on the confidence issue? Right now I’ve got other mental barriers that are getting in the way and I’m struggling to put my finger on how to make some positive changes. recently posted…First Draft – Goals for 2015My Profile

    • I will look it up, it sounds like an awesome book. I like your question, I think I really need to set out some practical steps, rather then having it as a vague airy fairy goal. It is challenging to make mental changes, way beyond the physical changes I think.

  2. I imagine the only reason people hate resolutions is that they never do them so it reminds them of that failure.

    I think it is quite normal to feel the constriction of life as we age. For me, pushing back against this by doing things that challenge me restores and preserves my self-confidence.

    Fake it till you make it really does work! What you will discover is that if you do that, one day you will suddenly realize that you aren’t faking it any more πŸ™‚

    Happy Year, Jess!

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