What do you get outta your bad habits?


How are you all? I have been watching and reading a fair bit of weight loss stuff lately as next year I am looking at getting back into some Personal Training. Just admitted it out loud! :) Anyway…. I noticed a common theme amongst some of the stories. These stories related to weight loss or lack thereof, but honestly they could be applied to any negative habits. The common theme was that these people were all “getting something” from being overweight.

Now if you put them all in a room and asked them if they wanted to lose weight my guess is 100% of them would say yes. But in reality something was holding them all back, or several somethings. We all want to improve, be healthier, work smarter, be more patient etc etc. Frequently though we hold ourselves back. We may have excuses for being held back, some more genuine than others. Wanting change isn’t enough though especially when there are really strong forces at play holding us back. I think we often don’t acknowledge those forces and face them in practical ways head on.

You can buy all the gear, hire a trainer, read the books and not get there if you aren’t willing to sacrifice or even acknowledge the “benefits” of remaining the same.  During Uni I tutored High School students sitting their end of year 12 exams.  I will never forget being hired to tutor a girl who lived in a very nice house in a very nice suburb. I was getting paid a pretty high hourly rate (compared to other jobs). I showed up day 1 and the girl answered the door, pretended to be someone else and told me I had the wrong house. After several awkward phone conversations I realised it was the right house and meet the right girl she just didn’t want to see me. Next time I showed up she jumped out the window and the final time she was less comical and honest and said she just didn’t want to study. Her Parents gave up after that I believe (or at least on my help as the solution)!

It can be difficult to accept that we are getting something positive from our negative habits. I think it can be helpful to look at the costs and benefits. One of the biggest benefits in staying put is simply that it is just easier to stay put, it doesn’t involve change, or effort, or work. Change can be scary and challenging. Also it is comfortable to maintain our bad habits. We developed those habits along the way as coping mechanisms for various situations in our lives and we kept them because they sort of “worked”. So giving them up is not going to be easy. Maybe we started smoking to fit in and now we are addicted or drinking to relax and now one glass is more like 3-5 a night. Maybe we eat to comfort ourselves and distract ourselves from being present in the moment.

Whatever the habit is it really doesn’t matter, but why we hold onto that habit does! Next time you are taking a moment out of your day to be mindful think about a bad habit or habits you have held onto for a long time and struggled to give up. Why are you so attached? How can you tackle that situation head on? What habits can you work on forming instead that are healthier and more functional?

Jess xoxox

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What’s Happening Lately!


I hope you are all doing really well and enjoying your November! I had big plans to blog (always do) and then life got really busy. Life is generally busier than I would like anyway but it seemed to step it up several notches the last few weeks. Although it has been filled with fun so I am not complaining!

We are going away for Christmas and this is requiring lots of planning and organising on my behalf. It should be a great time, but ahhh responsibility falls on my shoulders and keeps me up at night sometimes. I think I have it sorted finally or most of the important things, but there always feels like more to do. #firstworldproblems

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Happy 5th Birthday to my beautiful girls!


Today is my girls 5th Birthday Halen and Layla!

newborn H and L

5 years ago today I entered Motherhood and had to hit the ground running. It was without a doubt one of the most serene and magical moments of my life. I do not follow a particular religion, but your Birth was sacred and amazing. The learning curve from there was exponential!

H and L newborn

For those who know me I am not much of a planner and I get quickly bored with routine. However, I had ideas, vague plans and thoughts about how Motherhood would go, what I would and wouldn’t do and what sort of ‘baby’ I would have.  And then during an ultrasound at around 17 weeks unsuspecting me found out there was two of you! Never in my wildest dreams did I ever think I would be pregnant with twins. People even suggested it as I had such bad morning sickness and I said ‘No Chance.’

H and L 2 months

As John Lennon (I think correct me if I am wrong) said Life happens when you are busy making plans. That statement has been so true for me since you came into my lives. The life that has happened has been wonderful and far more fulfilling and beautiful than anything I ever could have planned.


You have both taught me compassion and empathy for others. This is especially true through for other Mothers as I struggled so much in the early days that I would do anything that worked. I fully appreciate why Mothers do things different ways because kids are different and we do what works.


You have both showed me that patience is an invaluable resource. Most challenges can be overcome and will be overcome if I am patient. Staying calm, supporting you and watching you learn in your own time is usually the best thing I can do.

Layla 4 girls birthday 2 Halen 4 Girls 16 months Girls 14 months

You have both raised me up at times that have been very dark in my life and carried me through with a smile. And you have both grounded me at times when that was what I really needed. And you are still such tiny people, I know it should me my job to provide those things for you and teach you (and I hope I do). However, it never ceases to amaze me how much wisdom such little girls can have.


I have learnt what it means to be a ‘Twin’ Mum and what amazing and unique gift that is. It is wonderful to support you and watch you flourish as individuals. It is amazing to see you collaborate as a team, with such a cool bond that is hard to describe in words.


Being your mother has made me a stronger person, both physically and mentally. My biceps are bigger than I ever could achieve with hours in the gym although my stomach is weaker despite hours in the gym. However, my endurance and my mental ability to push through and do whatever it takes to be the best Mum I can be has exponentially improved.


It has truly been a gift to have you in my life. Every sacrifice has been beyond worth it. You are my buddies, my play mates, my best friends and my daughters. You make me laugh and cry and I love and appreciate every moment (even the ones that are really challenging).

You are unreal big sisters! Your baby sister adores you and calls out for you all day when you are at Kindy! We are all so so so so lucky to have you both! I can’t believe 5 years have flown by already and I also can’t believe it hasn’t been 20.


Love you so much! I hope you enjoy your special day! 4 was such a fun year I can’t wait to see what 5 brings!

Mum xoxox


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